| What People are Saying About P.E.T. |
 "P.E.T. turned out to be a moment during the week for full on reflections, evaluation, examples, emotions, possible solutions, self-recognition. In fact a necessary moment to have in general. Louella is an excellent trainer". - German dad of four teens "The course has changed how I see my children. I now have more acceptance, patience and with that comes peace. Ultimately our home is now a much more fun place to be. For the first time, my husband and I are now approaching parenting as a team. Both our inputs are now valid and we are supporting each other to practice and master our new skills TOGETHER. I enjoyed Louella's company as a facilitator, I found her teaching, very relevant and she tailored some scenarios just for us". - An Australian couple of three “PET has changed the way I deal with family issues, relationship issues and conflicts. I thought I was going to get some new strategies for dealing with day- to- day issues within my family but I got more than I bargained for. It’s now a way of life and it’s time well spent nurturing what we value most, each other. I now realize there is a lot more laughter in our home and a sense of us. The skills my wife and I learned are invaluable. We’ve told our friends about it and they are ordering the text. - American parents "P.E.T. Made me think much more about 'calmer parenting' and taking my boys views into account. I am definitely endeavoring to active listen more rather than second guess as to what they are saying. Louella is an excellent trainer very empathetic towards the needs of the different parents that attended. Thank you very much " - British mum of two boys "I found P.E.T. a good way to spend 3 hours each weeek actually reflecting on how I approach parenting and to understand the underlying dynamics of the different approaches and their effects. It raises awareness. I found the entire course thought provoking and very practical. Louella as a trainer, gave clear interactive good examples which allow parents to openly discuss their children/parent issues. Loved the way the material was presented!". - An American mum of four teenagers, Singapore "I have thoroughly enjoyed my four weeks with Louella. She has enriched my life no end and I hope that this will continue. I have found her understanding and encouraging and a greater motivator and listener. I am more motivated now to change my parenting style than I ever was. This brings a higher confidence level within me, although I still need loads of practice which can only come by making every situation a PET situation" I first read the book and was extremely pleased to find a PET instructor at last, in Singapore! - - A British mum of two, Singapore "I enjoyed the course very much as it helped me to look at my child differently now and understand him better. Louella is really great, whether it is with roleplay or with giving examples, it just comes naturally to her". A Singaporean mum of one "It was a great relief to spend time with other mum's who were having similar issues and together we learned new approached to solving challenges that parents face each day. Over the weeks seeing others and myself become more confident in being able to tackle these challenges without loosing ourselves or our children". - An Australia mother of three, Singapore "It was overwhelming in the very beginning as it was SO DIFFERENT from the way in which I was brought up. The method was kind of eye opening for me in a very positive way. Louella was excellent, very patient, attentive with practical advice as to how the skills work and explains things so I could handle the changes". - A Korean mum, Singapore "I feel as if someone gave me glasses and I can see so many details I did not know were there. I am more calm and because of it, I feel closer to my kids. We as a family are functioning really well once again. I found Louella to be knowledgeable, open, caring and non judgmental. I would love to attend more sessions later to keep my skills up". - An American mum of three; Singapore "PET has given me many different tools to use when raising my children. I am able to deal with situations in a much calmer way. I found Louella's presentation to be excellent, thank you". - A British mum of two " P.E.T. helped me to find my old self - how I used to communicate with my children. I feel more calm and in control of my reactions to situations when they arise. I believe this has resulted in a more peaceful and happy home". - A british mum of teenage girls “We used to have family meetings but PET sorted out what was missing in them and why the kids had become bored with it. We realized as parents we were taking our own agenda, lecturing (in a manipulative way). Then we also realized that we spoke only of problems. Problems that we as parents solved for the children, PET returned the control to all members in the meeting and solving problems became a discussion, which considered and validated the ideas of everyone present. The kids started to talk about the great things in their lives and now we talk about world issues, local issues and the odd puzzle thrown in. Our youngest, 10 years of age said she we should no longer call our meetings family meetings but the ‘Council for important conversations’ !” - “It is nice to know that I still have a chance to let my teenage daughter know that I am on her side. From what I now gather about myself during this course, it’s me that was the problem not her. Hard to admit, but I am now on a new road toward gaining my daughter’s trust and love back again.” - An Aussie mum of one “PET taught me that the 10 minutes I take to allow my child to problem solve is time worth spending. I am sure this will benefit him greatly as I already see the happy changes within. I have a lot to learn and will probably re-do the course as a refresher in 6 months time. Having other parents to call for a chat really helps as well.” “PET should be done as a necessity for parents, teachers and all child care providers! I can’t believe we need qualifications for just about every job in the world except parenting. Loved the course, loved the book and am on my second read. I learned a lot but need to practice more. Believe me, I am getting plenty of opportunities. I am feeling very blessed with the children I have as they are responding so well to my calmness. PET let me see their goodness.” “Thanks to PET I am a better step-mother with less guilt about who owns the problem, me or the kids! Unfortunately, step-mothers have gotten a bad name through the world of fairy tales and new books need to be written on how difficult and frustrating it is to be anything with step in front on it. PET allowed me to know that I can do my best and the children seem to look at me rather differently and I am only just getting started!” FOOTNOTE: Dr Thomas Gordon, the renowned psychologist who wrote PET was twice nominated for the Noble Peace Prize for his great contribution to our world. Years later, PET families around the world still benefit from the sound principals he brought to us in the name of peace and harmony and respect for the individual needs, the child and the parent. For this we are so grateful. |
